1 Thessalonians 5:18, Psalm 37:4-5, Psalm 27:1-4
Single and thriving: this is the phrase my roommates and I adopted a few weeks ago. We sometimes refer to our house as the dessert because all 5 of us are single and there is no one even on the “radar” for any of us. Maybe you can relate. Singleness. It comes with good days and bad days but at the end of the day I can say, “Thank you Lord that your ways are higher and better than mine, thank you Lord that you are all I need!”
What do I mean when I say good days? Great question. There are days when I am so thankful to be single. I see the opportunities the Lord has given me, relationships to invest in, and transformation that needs to happen. He has blessed me with a job so that I am able to build a good foundation when it comes to finances. My tendency is to hold a tight grip on money for security and the Lord is challenging me to give back what is His with a happy and joyful heart. He has given me the opportunity to lead a small group for some college students. I am just humbled that the Lord would use me in this way, to be a vessel of His love as I walk through life with these girls. Most of all my prayer every day is that the Lord would use this time to transform me to be 1) the daughter of Christ He calls me to be, and 2) the (someday) wife He calls me to be. It’s in this time the Lord is forming a firm foundation so I am equipped for whatever He has next for me. I pray He transforms me more and more everyday so that I am able to support, encourage, and submit to my husband the way the Lord commands.
I think everyone knows what I mean when I say bad days. You know the days where you just feel sad and lonely and you don’t understand why you have to keep waiting. It’s like a roller coaster ride. One day is great and the next you are having a pity party. That is why we have to set our minds on the things above every single day we wake up. Praying that the Lord would change your heart of discontentment to contentment, your heart of loneliness to be filled with the Spirit and your heart of sadness to gratitude because it is His will for us to give thanks in everything. (1 Thessalonians 5:18) On these days I remind myself to not dwell on the thing I don’t have because then I will miss out on what He has for me right now. Those relationships and conversations He wants me to have with co-workers, my small groups, and my roommates. I’m going to miss out on those opportunities and they are a gift! Ignoring this gift would be like ignoring your birthday and Christmas presents. No one does that, so why ignore this precious gift the Lord has given us? Remember the Lord knows our heart’s desire and if we commit our way to the Lord, trusting Him, He will act. (Psalm 37:4-5)
The Lord has so much good coming from this season of life and I have so much to be thankful for. It is such a fun time and I don’t want to take that for granted. I am in a place of trusting the Lord and His timing, being content where He has me, and believing that He knows my heart’s desire.
Know that the Lord has something for you in this season. He has something He wants you doing, something He wants to teach you, or something He is preparing for you. “Wait for the Lord, be strong and courageous and wait on the Lord.” (Psalm 27:14)