The doctor held one hand and the nurse held the other, he looked me straight in my eyes and said, "It's not a cyst. I'm very concerned and you should be, too. “
A few days later, I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of breast cancer.
As I cried, I asked my husband, "If I'm not here to take care of my kids, who is going to fill the void of their mother?" "You are,” he replied.
And with those words it was settled within my spirit — I would live and continue to serve my family and I would let God fight this battle.
The tears still came and I still prayed to be removed from the nightmare, but Jesus chose to bring peace in the midst of the storm—requiring me to be still, faithful, and trust in the promises of His Word.
I searched scripture for every life-promising truth and I began to pray His promises from His Word and asked for a miracle.
God was more gracious and merciful than I could have ever imagined.
After only 4 treatments of chemotherapy and a lumpectomy, the MRI and lab tests revealed no microscopic disease...not even one tiny cell.
Doctors remarked they did not have an explanation for what had happened.
But I did - I had been completely healed!
Without a doubt, God was faithful to His promises from His Word, which were the foundation of my prayers during treatments.
I not only learned to trust God through my journey with breast cancer, but I also learned a few lessons that help when life gets a little messy.
1. Let go — It probably wasn’t important anyway
Cancer has a way of rearranging your priorities. You learn to give up control, lighten up and enjoy each moment as it happens. We spend too much energy on the unimportant — let go of petty arguments, stop worrying if the kitchen will get clean before bedtime, or if there are muddy shoes by the door. Happiness, bedtime stories, and dancing in the rain are way more important.
An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up. Proverbs 12:25 NIV
2. It’s OK to cry
Whether it is a cancer diagnosis, loss of a loved one, or other heartbreaking time in life, it’s ok to cry — it’s an important part of healing.
I was unable to grieve during treatments, but once the dust settled, I was in full grieving mode. I cried and grieved the loss of the old me and I healed.
A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. Ecclesiastes 3:4
3. Laugh — A lot and often
Having cancer, or any other hardship, doesn’t cause life to happen in a vacuum. Life is full of tears and laughter.
With too many days filled with tears, stress, and worry, when you get the chance to laugh—laugh loud and hard!
A merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones.
Proverbs 17:22 NKJV
4. Take a glance back — The past is a promise
Although God has new plans for our future, there are times when we need to be reminded of the the trials God has already brought us through. Remembering His faithfulness of the past is a promise that He will see us through future hard times.
I look back every now and then…but only for a reminding glance and then I keep moving forward.
In the future your children will ask you, ‘What do these stones mean?’ Then you can tell them, ‘They remind us…’ Joshua 4: 6-7 NLT
5. Pray Specifically — Use His Word
Don’t be afraid to ask God for exactly what you need — pray specific scriptures from His Word. He promises to give us whatever we ask of Him.
Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7 ESV
6. God is faithful
God’s Word is unchanging and His promises are everlasting. God asks for our faith, believing in the promises of His Word, and in turn He vows to be faithful to us. Even when the circumstances keep us from seeing Him and we struggle to believe, God is faithful.
If we are faithless, He remains faithful—for He cannot deny Himself. 2 Timothy 2:3 ESV
Being diagnosed with cancer is not the only circumstance of life in which faith is tested. That is why I share my story. In doing so, I hope you will find peace knowing your journey may look different, but it is the same God with the same promises that brought me a miraculous healing, journeying with you along your path.
Through her experience as a former military spouse, current pastor's wife, women's ministry leader, empty nest mother of two, and a breast cancer survivor, Stephanie K. Adams has had many opportunities to encourage other women in the daily demands of motherhood, marriage, and when facing difficult circumstances through personal mentoring, writing, and speaking.
After her diagnosis of an aggressive breast cancer, Stephanie began writing about her faith journey through treatments, and ultimately, God's miraculous healing. Stephanie still shares God's faithfulness through her blog, R.E.A.L. Women, where she uses God's Word to build Relationships with other women through Encouragement, Accountability, and Love.
Stephanie has been a featured writer at Chosen and Crowned Ministries, Sweet to the Soul, and Triple Negative Breast Cancer Foundation. She is also a contributing writer for LifeNotes Cafe.
You can read Stephanie's blog at www.StephanieKAdams.com
Her favorite song/hymn? It Is Well by Horatio Spafford